You may have started to worry about what so-in-so thinks about you - surely he thinks you're boring coz you didn't watch the big game on telly last night, you didn't even know the score! And you call yourself a sports fan!
"Oh I'll never get to work on time because I'm stuck behind a Sunday-driver! Why doesn't the idiot just pull over, can't he see me here behind him?! "
"My presentation sucks! Bill gave just a brilliant one last week. I'm going to lose this customer, they'll think I don't know anything about their product! Oh I should have just passed on the opportunity, what was my boss thinking giving this project to me?!"
"Maybe I shouldn't buy this outfit, I probably look fat in it, oh look at that skinny woman over there, she must think I look like a fat cow".
"Oh no I couldn't possibly join my friends at the zumba class because remember that time in gym class 15 years ago when I just couldn't get the steps right! It was so embarrassing!!! It might happen all over again. No might about it, it WILL happen again! I better just stay at home, where it's safe. If I go out I'll miss my favourite telly show".
If you are constantly thinking self-depreciating, negative, critical, judgmental thoughts - all the cells in your body "feel" these. You will notice your posture turns to slouching, your chest feels tight and breathing gets harder, your legs get sluggish, your stomach churns....
Pretty soon you seem to have aches and pains throughout your body; and before long you notice they are with you every day. This gets tiring, fatiguing. You can't be bothered finishing that task, going to the gym, cooking a meal. Your body feels exhausted - and this in turn makes you think "oh what's the point?" "I can't be bothered", "I'll just grab a takeaway" "I'll go to the gym tomorrow".
Everything becomes an effort, and you resign yourself to your quiet, un-fulfilling life which you've managed to scare yourself into leading because it's "easier, safer".
Why on earth would any of us want to live like that?!
BUT you'd be surprised how many people do! How much stress people put on themselves, with unrealistic expectations or incredibly high unachievable standards which ensure a sense of failure and defeatism.
Your mind/body self-prophecizes - I'm boring, unworthy, fat, ugly, stupid, lazy, hopeless, uninterested in life, uninteresting....
What you feed your mind emanates throughout your body.
What your body feels emanates into your mind's thoughts/decisions.
What about if you hold a "STOP" sign up to these negative thoughts? Just STOP them right now!
What if you earnestly say...
"I'm fun, interesting, worthy, beautiful, motivated, hopeful, fun-loving, life-loving, fascinating. I have a lot to offer the world and people want to listen to what I have to say!"
What happened to your body? Did your posture straighten? Did your energy increase? Did you smile? Did the tightness in your chest lessen for a second?
This is the start of your journey! To find out more check out the courses: here
Images courtesy of freedigitalphotos.net: Image 1: (scared man) razvan gaur ionut, Image 2: (stress) Renjith Krishnan, Image 3: (signpost) artur84, Image 4: (woman in bed) FrameAngel, Image 5: (green room) Sumetho