Freedom Through Change

Hi, I'm Fiona. Deciding to create this blog series and website occurred organically over time as I researched ways to 'cure' myself of Myalgic Encephalomyelitis (ME/CFS) and clinical depression. I have met many people with ME, and heard stories of long-term 'sufferers' who stopped working and never started again, a prisoner in their own home (and sometimes bed) for decades! I was told that there is no cure, and most people resign themselves to the fact that chronic pain, exhaustion and depression is just how it’ll be from here on in!

There was no way, that at 30 I was willing to give up on my life, and give my life and my power over to these two illnesses that was very close to consuming me. That small spark of protest, hope, stubbornness (whatever you want to call it) proved to be my saviour. I’ve spent the last 5 years …healing. Now I am determined to help others like me, to heal themselves. Not just those diagnosed with ME/CFS but anyone who finds themselves in despair, dissatisfaction, or dis-ease. I’m here for anyone who is ready to experience freedom through change.

Let us just delve into that for a minute. You have to ‘want’ to change, maybe you’re not feeling it on a conscious level yet, but reading this, finding this website, is evidence that your sub-conscious is ready. So take it as a sign that you are ready to change, to heal whatever is holding you back from living the life you dream about.

You can read more about what I do via my website and contact me via email. Through my blogs I hope to touch on a few healing processes and insights I’ve learned along the way. I’ll explain some of the aspects of our conscious and sub-conscious, and what that means for us, about our connectedness with the universe, nature and each other. I will discuss topics such as nutrition, healthy lifestyles, stress and stress relief, and any others I think of along the way. This whole website has articles, and resources for you so just take a look around.

I am working on online programs at the moment, so that wherever you are in the world, you can begin to develop new tools to change your life. Come back to the blogs in the meantime for updates and insights. Plus remember I’m only an email away. fiona@helptohealyou.com

As part of our journey through change, we must first realise that 95% of what we do/are is controlled by the sub-conscious. Most people are aware that our sub-conscious is like the auto-pilot who ensures we continue to breath, digest food, sleep, avert danger etc: all our physiological responses. But did you know, that it’s also our sub-conscious that stores all our memories, categorizes all our experiences into retrievable formats, and filters our world (environment, interactions, experiences) based on pre-programmed codes of conduct?

Those codes were established from birth until 7 years of age as we uploaded data from interactions with and observations of those around us (our parents, siblings, relatives, caregivers, teachers etc). We were using this time to learn our place in the world. This data became our ‘belief system’ and we assessed, categorized, and filtered all future occurrences based on it, and this shaped our identity into the person we are today. The other 5% is your conscious mind which downloads sections of the belief system to fit with, assess, or understand our day-to-day interactions, choices and decisions, problems, solutions, emotional responses etc. So although your conscious mind seems like it is in control, it actually isn’t, and your identity is a by-product of pre-learned data. Everything you think you know was taught to you by someone else! Yikes! So what happens if they got it wrong? What if what they taught isn’t actually beneficial to your well-being? What if they raised you in a detrimental, limiting way? Well… the good news is… our brains, as scientists have recently discovered, do actually have plasticity. Meaning they are changeable. This is a fairly new notion in the neuroscience world, but an exciting discovery. Because it means we are in charge of our future. Despite what may have been learned in the past, despite whether your upbringing was positive or negative, nurturing or abusive, YOU are in charge of your future, from this very moment.

We can physically and mentally change the way our brain functions! At a cellular level, at a synaptic level, at a sub-conscious and conscious level, at the core of what it means to be you, we can manifest changes!  So this means we can change our thought processes, our filters, our perceptions, our moral guidance, our learned behaviours, our values and our belief systems. Excited? I am! This change is possible:

• Not through blame, as that only perpetuates your limiting beliefs (your caregivers did the best they could from what they were taught by their parents, and their parents and so on back through the generations).
• Not through beating yourself up (oh it’s all in my head, I brought this illness or this bad luck on myself).
• Not through dredging up the past and dwelling on and re-living experiences.

This change is possible through:

• Determining what is holding you back or making you ill.
• Clearing these limiting beliefs.
• Re-framing your thoughts.
• Re-categorising your beliefs into new folders with shiny new titles.
• Re-learning what it means to be you, me, us.

What’s brilliant about this is that although it sounds like a major challenge, it is actually quite easy, and you can learn the tools you need in a few hours. The key to making them stick, of course, is practice and repetition: so it’ll take you longer to change everything, but you’ll start seeing results fairly quickly if you are completely dedicated, and if you’ve followed the processes.

So for now, for right this minute, for those who:

• suffer from ME/CFS or mild depression
• suffer from any form of chronic or recurring dis-ease
• are grieving a loss or losses (loss comes in many forms: death of a loved one, security, financial stability, relationship, identity and so on)
• were told by supposed ‘loving’ parents, caregivers or teachers that they weren’t good enough
• just simply (or not so simply) lost their way
• just find things aren’t going right in life
• just so very tired and needing to stop and rest

Believe me when I say that in my 35 years in this lifetime I have experienced all of the above … and I understand what you are going through right now. I know you are sick and tired of feeling like sh*t all the time. I know that the weight of the burdens on your shoulders have flattened you. But also believe me when I tell you that there is a better way to be, a way to get through, and a way to free your mind, body, and soul.

If you can’t find the light at the end of the tunnel, consider this:

Believe it! Because YOU and ONLY YOU can free yourself, can reignite that spark. You have to believe that you are well, that you are happy, that you are going through all of this for a reason: to learn to be a better you.

This short video so eloquently sums up, the power of, not only depression, but ourselves to over come it.

I had a black dog, his name was depression by World Health Organisation and www.matthewjohnstone.com.au

Whatever the reason, however you got to where you are today, reading this, just know that it can and will change if you truly want it to. Just as you attracted, unknowingly, all the crap into your life, you can now, knowingly, attract all the abundance into your life.

I’m not going to start waahing on about the law of attraction right now. We’re not ready for all that anyway. All you need to do right now is be still. Take a deep breath in, and out – slowly. In your mind say “I’m ready”. You might hear a ‘no you’re not!’ or some other fear-mongering thoughts. Ignore them. Hold a STOP sign up to those thoughts, and say again “I am ready”. With earnest, once more “I am ready to change. I am ready for freedom through change”. This is your first step. All you have to do, is take that first seemingly terrifying step, I’m there to stand beside you. When you take your first step towards your freedom through change, you will realise that it wasn’t that scary after all, you will wonder why it’s taken you so long, and then you’ll be ready for your next step, and your next, til you’re running towards life!

Blog: Freedom Through Change. Ends.
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